Thursday, July 27, 2006

The knitting collective

In all of my post-Harlot excitement I was talking about Tuesday evening to one of my co-workers when she paid me a most excellent compliment. She asked me to teach her how to knit.

Non-knitters, take heed. We are like the Borg. Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.


Blogger KatyaR said...

Ooo, I have to know who this was!

7:53 PM  
Blogger Procrastiknitter said...

Isn't that the coolest! I have to admit that I was assimilated by the Knitters almost a year ago. I'm so glad someone took the time to show me!

4:01 PM  
Blogger Fumble Fingers said...

Ok, I am dying for a pair of really cool socks how do I find someone to teach ME how to knit?

7:12 PM  
Anonymous Lydia M. said...

Oh, that is the best, to get to pass on the obsession, whoops, I mean the fun. Really wouldn't the world be a much calmer place if everyone had some small hobby to veg out with on a daily basis? I've taught my daughter and two other girls so far but no adults yet.
I found your site on the Harlot's Oklahoma adventure. Oh, you are so lucky to see her in person. I love all her books. It is inspirational that even an experienced knitter can mess up.
I read an earlier post where you were giving yourself a poor grade on being a mom that day. Sigh. I know exactly how you felt, my middle child was very similar at that age. Talking softly worked better than yelling or talking loudly. Boys in general, I have found can zone out when their moms are addressing them easier than anyone in the universe. Also, counting to three when you need them to do something, in a nice calm voice seemed to work like magic with him. A pre-school teacher suggested it. My middle child is now 16 and just fine. He is terrific at math and computer related anything, can draw wonderfully, a great sense of humor, can run like the wind and has a generous streak. He also is still rebellious about rules, but just complains a lot, no acting out. What really helped our relationship was my realizing how often when I spoke to him I chastised him, because he honestly would do stuff like your refridge episode quite often. He was very imaginative.They really love gadgets! (When he has to watch a younger cousin occasionally he never takes his eyes off of them because he says he knows what they are capable of!) I also tried to spend at least 20-30 minutes a day alone with him, totally focused on him and whatever he wanted to do or something fun I thought of. That was my midwife's suggestion for every child you have. He was a jealous of his little sister when she first showed up but her adoration of him and my thanking him for 'helping' me with her because babies are such a lot of work. This point was made frequently, especially when relatives insensitively made too much fuss over the baby. I had him do simple things, like just handing me a diaper, which I 'stupidly' put too far away to reach for months, or telling her a story because I was too tired, seemed to help a lot. By the time she was one they were buddies and he was very patient with her. He actually taught her to read when she was three and a half! He did it one letter sound a day, it was all his idea.
Relax about him when comparing him to other kids. Lots of boys mature slower. And school might be a hard adjustment because, let's face it they have them sit way too much. But in general isn't everyone rushing their kids a bit too much to grow up? My daughter is now 13 and we both cringe at the sexy styles for young girls.
Sorry I blabbed so much. But don't worry, enjoy your son, he'll be just fine. And so will you. It seems we learn as much from our children as we teach them.

6:58 PM  
Blogger Carolyn said...

Found your blog via the Yarn Harlot's page after her visit to OKC! Enjoyed your page immensely and can identify with the child frustration! My daughter has a 4 year old little girl and a brand new baby boy and I have gotten many phone calls from her during those "mommie melt-down" days! Hang in there! I raised two myself and it is the hardest job you will ever love!

7:06 AM  
Blogger Missy said...

Sorry I'm just now getting to all the comments...

fumble fingers, I recommend finding a guild or good yarn shop in your area (What part of Texas are you in? Maybe I can find one for you.) and asking someone to show you. I can hook you up with some books but it's much easier to learn from a person.

Lydia M. and Carolyn, thank you so much for the comments. After having a few days to sit and think about everything and reading all the wonderful comments, I realize that most of the problem is me. I need to just chill out and enjoy the boy and quit expecting him to be so perfect. So I will be practicing my patience and restraint and trying to just let things go more often.

2:51 PM  

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