The knitting collective
In all of my post-Harlot excitement I was talking about Tuesday evening to one of my co-workers when she paid me a most excellent compliment. She asked me to teach her how to knit.
Non-knitters, take heed. We are like the Borg. Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.
Non-knitters, take heed. We are like the Borg. Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.
posted by Missy at 4:49 PM
6 Comments:
Ooo, I have to know who this was!
Isn't that the coolest! I have to admit that I was assimilated by the Knitters almost a year ago. I'm so glad someone took the time to show me!
Ok, I am dying for a pair of really cool socks how do I find someone to teach ME how to knit?
Oh, that is the best, to get to pass on the obsession, whoops, I mean the fun. Really wouldn't the world be a much calmer place if everyone had some small hobby to veg out with on a daily basis? I've taught my daughter and two other girls so far but no adults yet.
I found your site on the Harlot's Oklahoma adventure. Oh, you are so lucky to see her in person. I love all her books. It is inspirational that even an experienced knitter can mess up.
I read an earlier post where you were giving yourself a poor grade on being a mom that day. Sigh. I know exactly how you felt, my middle child was very similar at that age. Talking softly worked better than yelling or talking loudly. Boys in general, I have found can zone out when their moms are addressing them easier than anyone in the universe. Also, counting to three when you need them to do something, in a nice calm voice seemed to work like magic with him. A pre-school teacher suggested it. My middle child is now 16 and just fine. He is terrific at math and computer related anything, can draw wonderfully, a great sense of humor, can run like the wind and has a generous streak. He also is still rebellious about rules, but just complains a lot, no acting out. What really helped our relationship was my realizing how often when I spoke to him I chastised him, because he honestly would do stuff like your refridge episode quite often. He was very imaginative.They really love gadgets! (When he has to watch a younger cousin occasionally he never takes his eyes off of them because he says he knows what they are capable of!) I also tried to spend at least 20-30 minutes a day alone with him, totally focused on him and whatever he wanted to do or something fun I thought of. That was my midwife's suggestion for every child you have. He was a jealous of his little sister when she first showed up but her adoration of him and my thanking him for 'helping' me with her because babies are such a lot of work. This point was made frequently, especially when relatives insensitively made too much fuss over the baby. I had him do simple things, like just handing me a diaper, which I 'stupidly' put too far away to reach for months, or telling her a story because I was too tired, seemed to help a lot. By the time she was one they were buddies and he was very patient with her. He actually taught her to read when she was three and a half! He did it one letter sound a day, it was all his idea.
Relax about him when comparing him to other kids. Lots of boys mature slower. And school might be a hard adjustment because, let's face it they have them sit way too much. But in general isn't everyone rushing their kids a bit too much to grow up? My daughter is now 13 and we both cringe at the sexy styles for young girls.
Sorry I blabbed so much. But don't worry, enjoy your son, he'll be just fine. And so will you. It seems we learn as much from our children as we teach them.
Found your blog via the Yarn Harlot's page after her visit to OKC! Enjoyed your page immensely and can identify with the child frustration! My daughter has a 4 year old little girl and a brand new baby boy and I have gotten many phone calls from her during those "mommie melt-down" days! Hang in there! I raised two myself and it is the hardest job you will ever love!
Sorry I'm just now getting to all the comments...
fumble fingers, I recommend finding a guild or good yarn shop in your area (What part of Texas are you in? Maybe I can find one for you.) and asking someone to show you. I can hook you up with some books but it's much easier to learn from a person.
Lydia M. and Carolyn, thank you so much for the comments. After having a few days to sit and think about everything and reading all the wonderful comments, I realize that most of the problem is me. I need to just chill out and enjoy the boy and quit expecting him to be so perfect. So I will be practicing my patience and restraint and trying to just let things go more often.
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